Written for Lisa-Jo’s Five-Minute Friday: Connect

Calling people on the phone scares me almost as much as killing spiders. Strange, considering that I enjoy acting as secretary, answering questions and taking messages when I’m the one who picks up the phone. It’s the conversations that last longer than 1 minute and 53 seconds that scare me. I struggle with connecting over the phone.

But in the last couple years, my life and the lives of many of my friends have changed. Longer distances, busy schedules, and life changes get in the way of our formerly frequent slumber parties and get-togethers. Email is my second favorite form of communication. These days, though, I often don’t have the brainpower to expend on writing a long email at the end of the day.

So inevitably, I must use the phone occasionally. And I’m trying to overcome my fears that I might be interrupting someone else’s busy life. I’m learning the advantages of pouring out my unedited, un-spellchecked thoughts to my friends, even if I can’t see their facial reactions.

As keeping in touch with dear friends gets harder each year, I’ve learned an important lesson. I have to be intentional with connecting with my friends, taking advantage of whatever occasion comes along to strengthen a relationship. Whether that’s shooting off an email, going out to coffee, or now more often, picking up the dreaded phone–the opportunity to connect is too precious to waste. And sometimes, communicating in new ways helps us connect parts of our hearts that we never knew we had in common.

4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. robinbrz
    Aug 10, 2012 @ 17:06:09

    Dropping by from Lisa’s today.
    Being of “a certain age” I remember all to vividly a time when your only option of connecting with your friends was the telephone (or snail mail!). And our parents never understood how we could spend hours talking after spending all day in school with each other.
    I am thankful for the variety of options we have now. But your point is well made – it’s doing it that matters!


  2. Denise
    Aug 10, 2012 @ 17:37:49

    Sweet post.


  3. Sam
    Aug 11, 2012 @ 04:35:10

    I agree with you; connecting is really important. I used to be a bit scared of phone calls too but am learning to love them more and more each day. In fact, I had a delightfully long phone conversation today with a good friend.


  4. Amber
    Aug 23, 2012 @ 23:28:33

    It seems to me that those un spell checked phone calls are more meaningful, more personel and often oh so enjoyable. great post.


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